Wednesday, August 19, 2015

Protest: Gender Responsive Constitution

Police Interfere while women activist were trying to enter in to the restricted area at Baneshor, August 18, 2015.The mass rally was started from Babarmahal and concluded at the new Baneswor with corner assembly.

August 18, 2015 during the corner assembly, Dipti Gurung a victim, Her daughter Nikita and Radha Paudel were trying to cross the restricted areas and has dispute with security
August 18, 2015 Police not allow to enter in to restricted area 
August 18, 2015 Dipti,Nikita, Meera Dhungana and Radha Paudel were negotiating with police 

Response to Dr Arjun Narsingh KC

केसी नेपाली कांग्रेसका केन्द्रीय सदस्य तथा सभासद हुन् भन्दैमा उहाको कुरा के मैले पताउनु पर्छ वा सहमत् हुनु पर्छ र ? अह म सहमत् भईन । हुन त उहाका समर्थकलाई चित्त दु:खदो हो ।

जागरन्को जुक्ती चहिएको छ भनेको के हो ? कस्तो जुक्ती हो, एक एक गरेर भनी दिएको भये हुन्थ्यो नि ? आज कर्णालीमा के स्वास्थ्य, शिक्षा, नभएकै हो त ? अहिले गाउ गाउमा स्कुल छन, हेल्पोस्ट छन, गबिस भाबना र सचिब छन कागजभरी, कागजभरी । सरकारी र गैर सरकारी निकएका सबै कार्यक्रम भएकै भयै छन, सदर्मुकाममा बिकासेहरुका कुहिना ठोकिन्छन, होटेल तानातन हुन्छन । गैर सरकारीमा काम गर्ने सबैको घर काठमाडौंमा छोरा छोरी बिदेश्मा कर्णालीका गरीब मान्छे जहाका तेही मात्र हैन धनी भएका धनी भएकै भ्एछन गरीबहरु ढुङे युगमा नै छन ।

पातिको सदस्य भएसी जागिर घरमा बसेर खान पाईन्छ . आफ्नो मान्छे भएसी जागिर पाईन्छ, कर्णाली गएसी प्रोमोसन नि हुनी, पैसो नि पाउनी, बिकास कसलाई , किन गर्नु पर्‍यो। बiहिर भित्र सबैलाई मिलेकै छ नि तारतम्य । 


कर्णालीलाई चहिएको उद्दोग हो, आज जुम्लाका स्याउ गाई भैंसीले खान्छन डोल्पा र हुम्ला जसलाई मोटर बाटोले छोएको त छैन तिन्का के कुरा गर्ने। कर्णालीलाई चहिएको रोज्गार हो जहाँ पुर्बी नेपालका दाजु भाई, दिदी बहिनी जान सक्ने प्रनाली चाहियेको छ नकी कर्णाली रोजगरी जस्तो फोहोरी राजनीति गर्ने, झन गरीब बनाउने परियोजान । कर्नलिमा भएका अधिकास बिकास जस्को नममा भएनी पर्निर्भरमुखी (dependency) छ, सबैलाई थाहा छ फेरी नथहापाये झै गर्छन्। 


कर्णालीमा प्रबिधी चाहियेको छ, कर्णालीमा पर्यतन बिकास चाहियेको छ। जुम्ला नै जान मात्र एउटा बिदेशिले ७०० डलर तिर्नु पर्छ अरु जिल्लाको के कुरा?


म राजनीतिको भित्री फोहोरी खेल जान्दिन र जान्न कोशीस नि गर्दिन किन कि म आफुलाई दाट्न सक्दिन।
कर्णाली लाई छुटै पर्देश भन्दा नि बिशेष अधिकार दिनु पर्दछ जहाँ कर्णाली ले अबको २० बर्षमा फद्को मIर्न सकोस । दुई दिन घुम्न जाने, भत्ता खाएर जाने, लाई त कर्णाली स्वर्ग नै होला सधैं बस्नु पर्ने को लागि कर्णाली नर्क भन्दा बडी हो । जल्बायु परिवर्तनले हिउ सजिलै पग्लदो रहेछ तर कर्णालीको बिबशता, मानब निर्मित गरीबी पग्लन ललिपप भाषानले सक्दैन, ठुला ठुला सोध पत्रले सक्दैनन, मान्छे मारेर त नसकिने प्रमाणित भैसक्यो। सकिने भएछ भने बिशेष अधिकारको नैतीक बलले sakla. (sorry for typo mistake).
http://wwwwillandway.blogspot.com/2015/01/blog-post_29.html


http://kantipur.ekantipur.com/news/2015-08-19/20150819072617.html

Sunday, August 16, 2015

A Real Man and Entrepreneur: A Street Shoemaker


Binod Mahara, Shoemaker in street, I spent about 2 hours with him, August 3, 2015

Binod was busy in sewing shoes


 About 3 pm of August 3, 2015, strong sunshine was experienced. A man with black beard and moustache, uncombed hair, brown paint, seems scales of white and brown color t-shirt with sleeper was coming over through bridge of Manoharariver at the boarder to Kathmandu and Bhaktapur. He looked like homeless and crazy people seen in the street of Kathmandu. But I easily identified that the guy was belong with this street shoes repair center. Because the raged roofed center with few repair materials and a wooden box was with attained. 

Due to surgery and bike accident, my left leg is not strong, I am claiming up 5000 meter high but I would have hard time if I have to wait more than 2-3 minutes. I didn’t see any place such as restaurant; passenger’s waiting benches etc. nearby where as I have to wait minimum an hour for Hum so I decided to sit at this center.

With murmur sound, I am sitting (lau ma ta base hai), I sat on his wooden box, I was wearing black eye glass  with white and yellow color handles and covering my face with black cloth face mask.  I was carrying my bag pack in my raged computer bag too and wearing a blue long sleeve T-shirt and black jean paint and white Nike shoes.  He didn’t even look at me, remained quiet and kept on sewing shoes. He might think that I was also a customer of him. He was continuously serving his customers.
Lady: Brother was you free?
Shoemaker: I was here for that.
Lady: she was showing her shoes and asked, how much money did you charge?
Shoemaker: only 0.9 $, if you like to do through and through, it charged 1.2 $.
The lady was coming with young guy. That guy said, we can buy new shoes if we add 2 $. They returned back without repairing. He neither express unhappiness nor shown by his facial expression. He was continuously sewing shoes for another customer.
He was repairing an umbrella of a young lady. Suddenly, he spoke; how did you break this?
Lady: I was using it while riding bike
Shoemaker: very good (gentle manner), your umbrella still with you. Is the umbrella for bike?
Lady: remained silent.
Another lady came and asked in very polite tone, brother, my shoes were broken again; I repaired it just 3 days before.
Shoemaker: He just picked up the shoes and repaired.
Lady: how much money should I give?
Shoemaker: 0.2 $

He was quite busy; I was reading his mind, face and his business. So many questions were swimming in my mind but I was struggling to start. I was trying to understand his language. He was speaking very fluent Nepali. I have deep respect since I read the story of shoemaker, Simon in my Nursing course.

A very dusty, smoky Jadibuti chock was moving as usual. I was waiting and waiting Hum’s call from Ratnapark. Seemed Hum was being late. Meantime, I was aware that the road was crazy traffic due to protest by supporters of Hindu religion. The due date for constitution is close thus many groups and communities are claiming their rights by organizing various forms of protest. I, myself was in strategic meeting just before 1 hour for same for gender responsive constitution in upcoming constitution.  

I dared to tell, please use the facemask. People would have lung cancer, asthma that exposed in such environment for long. He innocently takes out his mask from pocket and put on his face but he was chewing tobacco and has to spit off.  Then I asked about his place of origin. He replied, Sarlahi. I pretended that I was from same district originally but living in Kathmandu since long. I continued my saying; I was from Harion from Sarlahi. I saw cherishes in his face and spoke, I was from Kabigachhi, ward no 2.  It was easy to continue our conversation.
I: my name is Radha Paudel, what is your name?
Shoemaker: Binod.
I: what next after Binod ? I really don’t like to ask but I have to identify about him.
Binod: Maha……ra (sounds whispering).
I: Mahatara?
Binod: no, Mahara.
I continued the conversation, I was facing him by sitting in his wooden box and he was facing to me when he stood up his head.
I: how long were you here?
Binod: more than 14 years, pointing towards the cinema hall in opposite site, it was made in front of me.
I: how did you learn? Did your dad or grand dad do same?
Binod: No, he was nodding his head. My grand dad was beaten me while I was quite young, due to denying plough in field. That day, I left home. I only heard about Kathmandu where my cousin was working. I met him in Koteshor and worked with him for 2 years then I am working here since last 14 years, he was fluent now like we were familiar since long.

I: How much money do you earn? (I scared to ask but I did).
Binod: he proudly shared, I counted the money at monthly basis, in average 300-430 $ /month (he was counting the money and said, see no earning only 9.5 $ for today, most of the times cross 10 $and reached like 15$.

Suddenly he changed his mood and said, I still failed to make a house in Kathmandu. I read his mind on how much pressure get men from society for economic responsibilities. He smiled gently and shared, but I able to made a house in Sarlahi at least.

I: it was great, you have good earning. Do you have planned to go to aboard for buying house in Kathmandu? Many people from Sarlahi are migrating nowadays.

Binod: He furiously said, why should I go? I have good earning. I am serving my country and people though many people discriminate me. Nepali folks didn’t like to work here and ready to work anything in aboard. They use tie and shoot from that kind of earning and went to the restaurant. I really feel sorry to them.
A young boy was came to me by running and picked up his superglue that he had urgent. Binod just shouted No..No..I don’t care of your urgency and he snatched his superglue. That boy returned with scolding but Binod was calm and busy again as usual.

After a while, a lady came and said,
Lady: brother my shoes gone.
Binod: Thank you, he smiled.
He sewed very quickly.
I was impressed with dignity, gentleness and meantime curious about his habit as I know many men are lazy and have extra marital relationships.
I: were you living with your family, here?
Binod: He quickly appeared sad, my wife doesn’t ready to come here, she feels shame in front of the people.
I: does she came before?
Binod: No, but felt shame and humiliation because she is illiterate and from terai community. She said, she should have her house to stay here.
I: how much you studied?
Binod: no.
I: really, you must study primary school.
Binod: Really. In my village no school for people like me, he spit out left side.

I understood well that he represent low status in many ways.
He was working as usual, customers were coming and going. He was maintaining his account too.
I: where did you eat your meal?
Binod: he raised his head suddenly and looked at me, left the sewing work and raised his both hands and shouted, what is the use of these hands? Do I have my wife when I was born? Is there any guarantee of having wife till my death? I cook myself. I cook food early in the morning for lunch and I cook dinner after closing this work. Usually, I open my shop at 6 am in the morning and close at 7 pm in evening. 

I don’t have any questions and doubt on his saying. I just kept on listening and smiling.

But he needs to tell to justify himself as REAL Men.
I: How do you spend such big amount of money?
Binod:  I send the money to my wife and kids in between 10-15 days through bank. My daughter is still young but son is studying. I wanted to educate them well as here. I have to pay 25 $ /month for room rental and keep some money for my food.
He didn’t tell about his habit. But he was chewing his tobacco and was spitting out in between  1-2 sentence, sometimes left and sometimes right.
I asked, do you drink alcohol?
Binod: yes, I did but very rare. Sometimes, I went to party along with my friends. In Nepali context, starting drinking is not really good habit, usually people likely be addicted gradually.  He added, now this is the month of Srawan so I don’t eat anything like meat, fish, and drink. His face was down while trying to justify this. 

Immediately, I asked; so you were Hindu right? Don’t you go to the rally today, it was all by Hindu.
Binod:  Again, he angered and said; why should I go for rally. I have friends from all religion; we are eating together and helping each other, no need to fight each other. Everyone has right to choose religion thus I don’t join the rally, I am Hindu but I don’t say Hindu country.  I quickly asked, do you aware about constitution. He replied, yes, I know but leaders won’t bring, always fighting for them not for us.

I simply amused by hearing him. I smiled with him but he was working as usual.

I like to take his photo and thought to write about him but I don’t have camera and my mobile was broken. Though I did try, can I take your photo though I have not good camera. He said, no and simultaneously asked, why? I simply said, I wanted to share your stories to all young people and others. He smiled my story? Who cares? I insisted him. But he is not ready. Then I asked, can I take photo with you? I got nervous and say no again. I continued to push him; can I take a photo of your materials please? I might tire. He said, took a photo of mine only. I quickly caught it by my broken mobile.

He didn’t ask anything about me but I felt bad that I have asking so many questions and he just responded all.  I just shared him, I am educated women, went to colleagues. Now, I am going to Banepa to see earthquake people for some volunteer work and waiting my friend, he was in heavy traffic.

Again, I asked, where you were during the earthquake.
Binod: I was here, working as same now. The guy ran away but I didn’t. Everyone coming on the street and I am already in street. I was following all activities such as buses, bikes, people, houses and all, everything shaking well and scary. The people like us, no problem during any type of crisis, he said with boldly.

He continued and asked, how many kids you have?  I was shocked. It is always easy to provide suggestions and asking but hard to keep on their foot. I was nervous but pretend that I was ok. I said, I have only one daughter, she just passed +2 and looking for bachelor degree and living with her dad as usual. I tried to give all expected queries in single answer. He added, it’s good to have one child, the education is so expensive, I am in village, everyone need asked for more so I have two and I stopped already.

Hum texted me that he was in Koteshor. I shared with him, my friend is very close at Koteswor, and I have to leave soon. I will come to say hello later when I will walk through this road. He just nodded his head and working as usual but customers looked at him, they seemed newly married couple.  I am sure that they will talk about me later because the way they watched is very difference or curious.

Due to heavy traffic, Hum was delayed and I dared to ask one brave questions. Literally, I was scared though I asked; how often you bit your wife.

Binod: he innocently replied, I saw how the manhood is in crisis. I slapped only one time in my married life. He tried to justify, I felt guilt even now but she slapped to quite young son so I failed to control. I really impressed with him and also felt respect, because he was telling everything from his heart. He can lie with me.
When I saw the bus for Banepa and Hum was hanging at door, I said Namaste and good bye to Binod and went to Kavre.
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I was walking next day at the muddy, rainy road of Gairibisauna in Kavre, I felt something hanging in my heel side of shoes. I turned back and saw that the outer sole was peeling out. I afraid with my leg, how can walk without my shoes. My leg is getting weaker and weaker, have constant pain in knee and thigh where I had injury from bike accident. Meanwhile, I missed Binod.

I carefully tried to walk whole two days. The road is steep, slippery, rainy, red muddy and all bad things. I consciously stepped out and praying to be ok till Kathmandu. These shoes were original Nike Company from USA but second hand from Shanta. I used these shoes for two years from Jumla and one month immediate relief work and all places where I travelled. 

In August 5, I got off at same Jadibuti from Phedi, Kavre with very dirty, dusty, hungry and tired get up. I crossed the zebra cross quickly. I saw same raged roof shoes repair center while I crossed the road.  I directly went to Binod’s shop and greetings by saying Namaste. He smiled and continued his work as usual. He was in same get up, same work and same silence. I sat in his same wooden box and take out my shoes. He took out mud from shoes by his bare fingers. I felt bad, I asked him, please use the gloves. He said, by using gloves, couldn’t do work. I was remembering the place where I walk, dirty road in village where there is no toilets due to earthquake. Meanwhile, I also remember the smooth, fine and black gloves, which I saw these in the Shakespeare’s house in London. These were made by Shakespeare’s dad.

He also kept about 10 pair of shoes next to his side. Immediately, I recognized that it is his business, selling secondhand shoes as I am leading for Miteri Recycle Center for clothes.

I asked him, how much should I give? He simply said, no need. I really felt bad. He was working such hard and hazardous work at lethal place how can I left without paying. I asked again but he said No with louder tone. I was in dilemma, big dilemma. Did I disrespect him or other? I was thinking to give something but my bag was empty except 75 % filling up coke. I usually don’t drink coke but I bought that due to not having a water while get on bus.  I was thinking should I throw some money and run or leave this coke. Finally, I said, you are my brother, I am already 45 years and you are only 37 years. This bottle is clean, please drink it, and don’t throw away. He still denying and saying pardain..pardain- no…no. I ran way and cross the road for catching the bus for destination.

In my life, I met men from various walks of life. They were quite educated, rich, political, intellectual and all but not disciplined as Binod. Few characters of Binod matched with REAL man. Does any political party or leader or any development institution think about such shoemaker, their life, their contribution in rural and micro economics and challenges at their life in future.  He has dignity, determination, accountability towards family and country.  If he is saying honestly, he is an inspiring entrepreneur and more importantly a REAL man.




Saturday, August 15, 2015

Let's move together

म एकलै रोये,
कोठा थुनेर रोये,
खै कल्ले सुन्यो र ?
पल्लो घरे महिला दाई,
स्-परिवर झुन्डियेर् मरे ।
कोही हेलिएर मरे,
कोही जर खाएर मरे ।
 तर
तर ...
भयो के ?
पायेऊ के ?
एक्दिन समाचार बने ।
च्व च्व गर्ने थुप्रै भये .
फेरी..
फेरी बिर्सिए ।
हराये,
कुल्चिये,
जस्ताको तेस्तै,
हैन ..हैन ...
अझ खतम,
अझै धेरै बर्बादि ।
तेसैले,
उन्मुक्त भएर बाँच्न,
मानिस् भएर बाँच्न,
आगो भएर निस्क ।
हेर
कर्णालीमा हिउ जल्यो,
नजली उजायलो कसरी हुन्छ.
मैन जले जस्तै,
जलौ  , झल झली जलौ  .
एक एक गर्दै जलौ  ।
सबै एक भई जलौ  ।

Tamang Family Look Like Traditional Brahmin Family


Khel Bhadur and Sonamaya Tamang, August 5, 2015
This is the Tamang family I ever met. It is very unique in many ways. It looks like high caste Bramin family. In Nepal, the caste practice is a key concern in political discourse. Indeed, the culture of family or community is shaped by exposure, exposure gives power and power gives many things. This family could be very interesting for sociologist who is interested in research.  This family live in Bhatpol, Gaisithok, Kavre.  

बिहान् चिया र दुई चक्की बिस्कुट मात्र भेटिएको थियो । गाउमा गएर शहरका खानेकुरा खाने ईच्छा मलाई पटक्कै हुँदैनथ्यो बेलुकानै अनुरोध गर्ने गर्थे तर भुकम्प गएका कारण मैले आफ्नो बारेमा केही भन्न नै सकिन। हामीले झन्डै दिउसोको १२ बजैसकेका थियौ।  निर्धारित् काम सकिएको थिएन, हामी समय भन्दा पछी परिरहेका थियौ । भोक लागेको महसुस भयो। उकालो ओरलो हिंड्नु पर्ने, बोलिरहनु पर्ने वास्तवमा सजिलो पटक्कै थिएन। छलफल हुँदै थियो, मैले आफु बसिरहनुको अौचित्य देखिन र खानाको बेबस्था भएतिर खोज्दै गए। 
वास्तवमा खाना पल्लो गाउ खाने, काम पनि सकाउने भन्ने थियो गाउमा हामीले भने जस्तै तेस्मा पनि घर परिवारले बोझ्को रुपमा लिएका आँखा राम्रोसित नदेख्ने, कान् नसुन्ने, राम्रोसित हिंड्न नसक्ने, बा आमाहरुबाट भनेकै समयमा हुने भनेको गफै हो।   
हेर्दा खेरी पसल वा होटल जस्तो घरमा छिरे तर कोही थिएन । पछाडिको धोकाबाट निस्केको त एक्जना भर्खर्को केटा मानिस् लुगा धोइरहेका । चुलो सफा छ , ५ -५ जनाको लागि खाना भनेको ठाउँ हैन भन्ने पक्का भो।  . 
अर्को घरमा पसे जहाँ दुई जना महिला लुगा सिलाई रहेक थिए, खाना खाने कुरो त हुँदै भएन। म बाहिर निस्कदै थिए अघी लुगा धोइरहेका भाईले आएर भने दिदी दिदी खाना भनेको ठाउँ त त्यो घरमा रहेछ, उनी मिर्दुभासी लगे मलाई।  
हेर्दै सफा लाग्ने घर मैले को हुनुहुन्छ ह भन्दै छिरे । बाहिरबाट घर सानो टहरो जस्तो लाग्थ्यो भित्र त अजङको रहेछ सुपर मार्केट जस्तो । खादन्न एकातिर् मिलएर राखेको, बिस्तारा अर्कोतिर, बस्ने ठाउँ एकातिर् , भन्सा अर्कै तिर, फ्रिज, पंखा , सबै सबै कुर। मलाई कहाँ छु जस्तो लाग्यो। घाम एकदम चर्को थियो । म सरासर खाना पकाएको ठाउमा गये र पिरो नराख्न बिन्ती बिसये अनी पानी तताउन अनुरोध । हिजो बास बसेको घरमा मुल्को पानी केही हुन्न भनेर अड्डी कसे रत भरी खोकी लाग्यो घाटी दुख्यो । 
गुन्द्री मा बस्न के ढल्केको मात्र थिए, हर हर बास आयो आपको,भुइ कटहरको । ओह ओह के के रहेछन नि यहाँ त भनेर लोभ जाहेर गरे। एक्छिन गफ गरे भुकम्पले के के भो ?

साथीहरु आएका थिएनन। खाना पनि पाकेको थिएन तेसैले मैले कुरा गर्नु नै थियो, भोक मार्नु नै थियो कुरै कुराले ।    
दुई जना उस्तै उत्रै केटीहरु खाट्मा बसेका थिए, एउटाले मोबाईल खोल्दै फोटो देखाइ यो बच्चा पर्‍यो, बच्चाउनै सकिएन । एस्को आमालाई तान्दा तान्दै आधी जिउ छोपिहाल्यो । बच्चा ८ महिनाको, धनी तमाङ को बच्चा, खुबै रहर लाग्दो थियो, मेरा आँखा रसाये , झन्डै म चिचाइेन। तेसै दिन बिहान् खिचेको सुतिङ नै गरे जसत फोटो, जे भएनी सहनै पर्ने । म बोल्नै सकिन।
तमाङ कुराले के के भने कुनी ३ वटा भुइ कटहर् लिएर काट्न बसे घरक पुरुष । मैले एही मौकामा कुरा फेरी उप्काये, अरु के के नोक्सन भो ? सुन्न पनि डर लाग्दो । हुन त म लगातर १ महिना भुकम्प पछी काम गरेको मान्छे । २६ वटा बाख्रा मरेको, ४ वटा ४ दिन्पछी निकलेको आर्मी आएर । १ भैंसी, १ राङा, एउटा मेडिकल हल । मैले थपे धन्न हामी सबै बचेँछौ, अन्त त १७ जना मरेर एउता बाचेका छन, छेक्न नसकिने रोक्न, नसकिने भनेर कुरो मिलाये तर् जिउ भरी कान्डा उम्रिरह्यो ।
दिदी बहिनी होलान भनेको त आमजु भुहरी रहेछन। प्रेम विवाह गरेर आएकी बुहारी, एस एल सि मात्र गरेकी। छोरी त १२ पदेर सि एम य गरेकी , मेडिकल चलाएकी अनी स्थाइ को परिक्षा दिएर कुरेर बसेकी। जेठि छोरी नेपालीमा बि एड सकाएर गाउमा नै  पडाउन थालेकी। जेठो छोरा पनि बि एड अङ्रेजी बिषयमा सकाएर जागिर गर्दै, बुहारी  धुलिखेल्मा पार्लरको तलिम गर्दै गरेकी । कान्छो छोरा गाडी चलाऊन तलिममा । म सुनी बसे । साथी अझै आएनन। भुइ कटहर् काटन मैले पनि सहयोग गरे ।
मैले नाता लगाये, दाई कती पढ्नु भएको छ ? उनी हासे र भने मैले पडेको छैन ? मैले पताइेन् । दाई बिदेस जानु भाथ्यो ? कतै जागिर गर्नु हुन्थ्यो , पुलिस आर्मी को जागिर थियो कि अरु कुनै, उनी हास्दै जे पनि हैन छैन भनेर टाउको मात्र हल्लाइरहे । अनित्म्मा छोरीले भनिन ५ कक्षा पडेको, उन्को नाम खेल बहादुर तमाङ र उनिको श्रीमतीको नाम सोनमाया तमाङ ३ कक्षा। दुबै जना ४८ बर्षका अनी ४० सालम विवाह । 
मलाई जमिन्दार् भनिने मान्छेहरुको जस्तो हुलिया लाग्यो उनी। तमाङ ठ्याक्कै बाहुन छेत्रीको जस्तो पारा । जिस्किदै सोधे, रक्सी पार्ने कता हो , सोझै रस्की खान्छौ कि खान्नौ भन्न डर लाग्यो। बिहान् भरी रक्सी खाएर मात्तियेक बुदा बुडि तरुनो तरुनी सबै भेटेर आउँदै छु । मेरा वर पर भएका ४ जना नै गलल हासे र भने हामी त रक्सी चुरोट् कोही पनि कहिलै पनि खाँदैनौ ।खाने जातले नखाये पनि हुने रहेछ नि । किन मनिस हरु मरी हत्ते गर्दा होलान ।
मसितै हिंडेका सह् सचिब भन्दै थिए उनी पनि खान्छन रे बेलुका बेलुका उनी थिए पक्का बाहुन । तिनै तमाङ गाउमा पौद शिक्छा पदाउदा सिकेका रे सबैले माया गर्ने नै भन्न नै नसक्ने। देखे कती माया पाएका थिए उनले तिन्तका। 
लाग्यो तमाङ जती बाहुन, बाहुन जती तमाङ हुने भये के हुन्थ्यो होला हुन त के हुन्थ्यो मेरो सिल्ली कुरा । जे होस् यो तमाङ घर आनौठो थियो। तर् पनि यो परिवार कसरी एस्तो भयो भन्ने चुरो पतो लगेन। साथी आए, खान खान बसेउ । दुध थियो, मही थियो, अचार् थियो, भात् अनी भटामस्, आलु के के मिसएको मिठो तरकारी, अनी फर्सिको मुन्टाको तरकारी । आमाको याद् बेस्सरी आयो, आमाले साग मन पर्छ भनेर एसरी पकाउनु हुन्थ्यो, मासु खान्न , घर बिरलै आउछे भनेर दुध ढहि को जोहो गर्नु हुन्थ्यो अब सबै सम्झ्नमा मात्र .
साथीहरु आप, भुइ कटहर् रोजी रोजी खान थाले, मलाई भने यो तमाङ परिवार कसरी एस्तो भयो भन्ने प्रश्न को उत्तर नपाएर छत्पटी भएको थियो। फेरी सोधे, तपाईंको बा जागिर गर्नु हुन्थ्यो ? फेरी भने हैन
के हो त जे भने नि हैन भन्ने मैले अली जिस्किएर भने .
भुइ कटहर्को आख्लो कोतर्दै गर्दा उन्ले भने बा रकमी काम गर्नु हुन्थ्यो .
मैले बुझी हाले रकमी भनेको के भनेर बाहुनलाई लाग्ने आरोप तर् म बाहुनको छोरी भएर कहिलैइ पत्तो पाइेन ।   
मैले नबुझे झै गरे र सोधे - के काम हो रकमी भनेको
सबै गलल फेरी हासे, खेल बहादुर ले भने - तम्सुक लेख्ने, लाल्पुर्जा बनाउने। मैले सोधे -नपदेको मान्छे कसरी लाल्पुर्ज बनाउन मिल्छ वा सक्छ  ?
खेल ले भने आज भोली जस्तो पढ्नु लेख्नु पर्दैन तेतिबेला। कालो पाटिमा बास्को चोयाले लेख्ने हो , अली अली लेखे हुन्थ्यो .
म हासे र भने यो तमाङ बस्तिमा एउटा मात्र तमाङ कसरी रकमी बन्यो ?
फेरी सबै हासे
तेस्तै भयो , संगत होला नि .
उनिलाई भेट्ने ईच्छा थियो तर् सकिएन जे होस् एउटा नमुन तमाङ परिवार जिबन्मा पहिलो पटक भेट्कोमा खुशी लाग्यो .
खेल ले भने अनुसार उन्को २२ रोपनी बाउले दिएको अंश पर्छ, छ रोपनी किनेर सिर्मतीको नाममा छ, कफी खेती गरेक छन बर्षको ७-८ लाख तेस्बाट आउछ  । उन्को पाखभरी कफी, भुई कटहर्, आप, अनार, केरा, लिक्ची, आम्रिसो, उुखु, मेवा,    खुर्सानी, सिमी, काउली, बन्दा, भन्टा मौसम अनुसार फल्ने रहेछ। गाई ४ लिटर दुध दिने सबै सबै रहेछ। कुखुरा पालेका थिए रे  सबै भुकम्पले लगेछ। कस्तो उद्दमी परिवार , बर्षको १०- १५ लाख घरमा नै सब परिवार सँगइ बस्दै रम्दै कमाउने हेर्दा खेरी पहाड छ पहाड भित्र सुन हिरा फलेको छ । सबै आकाशको पानीको भरमा।
बिदेस जाने न मन भयो न छोरा छोरी पठाउने मन नै छ उनिहरुको। इलम गर्नेलाई जहाँ पनि छ भनेर दुक्क छ। किर्सी समुह बाट नेपालको धेरै ठाउँ घुमेका रहेछन जस्तै ईलाम, पोखर, गुल्मी, पाल्पा,चित्वन .
हिंड्ने बेला मैले बल्ल आफ्नो परिचय दिये, उनिहरुले नि सोधेनन मैले नि भनिन।
फोटो खिच्न मन लाग्यो अनुमती लिये र फोटो खिचे अनी अनुमती मागे मिल्यो भने पत्रीका मा छाप्छु है । उनिहरु खुशी भये र अनुमती दिये
Their daughter, daughter in law 

  
  




Friday, August 14, 2015

Protest will be continued

नशा नशामा,
जुगौ हेपिएको रातो र तातो रगत छ,
नेता ज्यु,
धैर्य गर भन्ने अधिकार तिमीलाई कल्ले दियो ।
हरेक निश्वास,
तातो र कुइरिमन्डल छ,
पोल्छ,डाम्छ र टट्टाउछ,
नेता ज्यु,
हुन्छ भन्दै जुगौ टार्ने हक तिम्लाई कल्ले दियो ।
हर पल,
म बलात्‍कृत छु,
मरेको छु,
जिउदो लाश घिचौदै घिचौदै,
बानेशोर छिर्न लागेको छु।
नेता ज्यु,
काडे तार र डन्ठे पुलिश्ले छेक्ने हक तिम्लाई कल्ले दियो ।
पल पल दुई मन्सित हुन्छु,
एउटा मरिरहन्छ, अर्को लडीरहन्छ,
तेही पनि तिम्लाई इर्स्या भो,
नेता ज्यु,
मलाई गोली हान्ने आदेश कल्ले दियो।
म मरुला,
मेरो बिचार  मर्ने छैन,
मेरो साथी मर्ला तर मेरो आन्दोलन मर्ने छैन।
मेरो अधिकार,
मेरै हातहरुले नलेखदासम्म
जुगौको छतिपुर्ति नगर्दा सम्म,
नेता ज्यु
मेरो आन्दोलन जारी छ।

मेरो आन्दोलन जारी छ । 

The Bitter side of the women's Movement in Nepal



In Nepal, if we see the women's movement, there are various forms of movement can be seen since history but they are heavily divided in many ways. In below picture I was a speaker and I addressed. As my nature, I was there 20 minutes before and stayed till end of the program. I highlighted the critical points in women's movement in Nepal. They were

The PM Sushil Koirala was not sensitive  towards women's movement, we condemned his statement. He was saying, we need to put down the protest because we might lost the gain what we get.'
 We have weaknesses within our movement, we have to unified and should organize very unique and mega program. Women should speak or stake on other emerging national issues e.g federalism, Karnali's movement .The NGO's nature won't work out for the revolution, we must cross the restricted areas and should be ready for the risk to bring change otherwise no one listening
We have enough done non-violence protest already.

While I received the press release from my friend via office email, I saw the below statement. There was not mentioned my name at all. While sharing the email, they sent about 100 organizations/women activists where I was missing. 

Personally, I never mind because I am used to with such systemic exclusion in Nepal since I jumped in  women's right movement officially. It is is not single event. I saw many newsletters, face book updates where systematically exclude me. I experienced many. I would get the email if it is about protest in street. I am inspired from such exclusion.  

Press Conference : Radha Paudel, Subin Mulmi, Durga Sob and Kalyani from right in  August 11, 2015
Same press conference;

 PRESS RELEASE

11 Aug 2015

Collective Campaign for Women-friendly Constitution


The Collective Campaign for Women-friendly Constitution organized a press meet today at Sancharika Samuha, Kupondole. The meet was called to address the issues of women’s equality and participation in the present draft constitution, the campaign's current stance after the revisions to the draft constitution and information dissemination about the ongoing street protests.

Women right activists Durga Sob, Subin Mulmi and Bishnu Kala Bhandari addressed the press meet.

Durga Sob detailed all the demands made by the collective campaign and also welcomed the positive input made by the lawmakers. However, she also strongly condemned the lawmakers for blatantly ignoring the issues of women participation and representation in the interim constitution. She also urged the people of media to support the movement and asked everyone concerned about women’s rights to take to the streets and express solidarity.

Subin Mulmi clarified the confusing language regarding citizenship through mother’s name and asked all to take it more seriously. He also argued that this provision refrains young women from marrying according to their choice, pushing the women population further away from their basic human rights.

Bishnu Kala Bhandari, on the other hand, shared the upcoming protest activities to pressurize the government for the formulation of women-friendly constitution.

The protest activities are being carried out on a regular basis to ensure women’s rights in the constitution. However, the government is still indifferent to the demand of women rights activities. The speakers emphasized that the demonstrations will continue till our demands are addressed in the constitution.

Sunday, August 9, 2015

Recovery and Reconstruction: Earthquake 2015

Because of rain, we all sat under the roof of school, older people were super happy to know about their rights and value in the society 
The way we engage with people are one of the most vulnerable in the community, +60 years 
This is the road, steep and slippery , we walked under rain at the month of August 2015
This is vehicle, I used several times for travelling, this is the cheapest means of transport, we can't hire a vehicle as like others, mostly we walked sometimes use such vehicle called Triper (use for carrying sand and stone for construction)



This is the house where I slept
This is the woman who was my bed partner in August 5 2015 Jasithok, Kavre.





Dignified Menstruation is Human Right.

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